Gender is Not Sex


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cultureonabudget asked: I've noticed that you use the word "transarche" in your writing. I imagine that it's a word akin to "menarche", but I don't want to assume. Can you say more about it?


You surmised correctly, O Hatted One. It is indeed descended from “menarche”. I use transarche to denote when i first truly realized I was trans. While I had a breakdown at eight, I never really did anything about it (unless you count praying, which didn’t really help) and I gave up, assuming that I was just a weirdo.

It wasn’t until late August 2013 that I realized “Hey, I’m still having these thoughts about being a girl. Maybe I should check into that…” That is what I call my transarche. Afterwards I went online, did some Googling, took the COGATI (and subsequently found out it was bullshit), found out “I’m not alone or crazy!?”, but it was that first “Wait a minute…” moment that I recognize as the beginning of my journey. If you want to use transarche, you’re more than welcome to it, it’s not like I took out a copyright on it. (Although…)

So anyway, thank you to Joe, my shitty supervisor at my last job. If you hadn’t treated me like dirt, I might not be the woman I am today. Thank you so much, you rotten piece of garbage.

I am seriously happy, though. Being trans caused some strife in my life, but I made some good friends out of the process. I even found love. So for reals, Joe… Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.

You cock-hydra.

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I almost lost it at the Disney Store today.


Why? I watched a father very firmly tell his little boy “No, you can’t have that Rapunzel dress.” The boy was near tears until his dad continued, “That one’s way too small. Let’s find your size.”

Eventually, the little boy decided against the dress and, with his dad’s blessing, picked out a tiara instead, because “it’s better for everyday.”

Parenting: this guy’s doing it right. 

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I’ve noticed in the last few days the non-binary petition has been moving slower

let’s not give up on it please?

Please don’t let this fade out. Every single signature and boost counts.

Please let this get the signatures it needs, please please please.

Don’t think “I’ll let someone else to do it” because its likely that person is thinking the same as you. The person they think they will do it? Thinking the same as you.

Sign it.

Less than 1000 to go! Come on, let’s get this done!

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